No one wants to cook for me! Or when they do, they prepare elaborate meals much to the dismay of my growing waist line. I’m running five miles a day just to try and keep it all in check. I know this doesn’t sound like a real problem but I was hoping to come home to California and get fit. I suppose this is the yummy price I pay for returning home from cooking in a 3-star restaurant in Paris.
My own mother – the best cook in the world – who has cooked for me for over thirty years now gets nervous in the kitchen and questions all her decisions. It’s terrible! Some friend’s last night made a fantastic meal for us that obviously took two days to prepare. Our hostess confided that her husband spent hours pouring over cookbooks and wouldn’t let her near the kitchen during prep.
Cooking school teaches you technique. It doesn’t mean that you grow superior taste buds or transform you into the next Guy Savoy. And it certainly doesn’t replace home cooked meals. And cooking in restaurants – even 3-star one’s – gives the repetitive experience of cooking the same things over and over and over. Sure I have the good fortune of watching exciting dishes be created by master chefs, but we also have a staff of thirty-six chefs to pull it all together.
Cooking is an art form and we all have our personal tastes and styles. That is what makes sharing meals so special because they are reflective of our experiences and backgrounds. I’ve had peanut butter balls made by kindergartners that I thought were the best things on earth and fancy shmancy expensive restaurant dinners that I thought were terrible. So there you have it.
The pressure of cooking at home is now more extreme for me than the pressure in the restaurant because everyone is like, “Oh you’re a trained chef, I’m sure this is going to be incredible”. Uh, hello – fear of failure?!?! I would rather be yelled at point blank by the Chef de Cuisine than have that stress hanging overhead.
In France, no one would even dare call themselves a chef with less than fifteen years in the business. So really, most of us cooking school grads now working in restaurants are merely cooks.
As one of my favorite chefs at Le Cordon Bleu used to say, “Food that looks good never tastes good. I’d rather eat a family cooked meal any day of the week” then of course he’d demo a 3-star meal for us and we’d gobble it down. But seriously, I think he’s right.
Sigh…
Amy is a superb cook with a light, subtle touch, and she comes from a long line of good cooks on both sides of the family — all with different styles and interests. While her appreciative nod to my home cooking is a sweet thought, truth be told, I’m the least of line!
— Her Mom
I understand what you mean Amy. My dad is a great cook, I just love the simplicity of his cooking. But then I started experimenting in cooking, using him and others as ginny pigs. After a while, I started getting better and they were really liking my food, which made me feel great and keep me motivated.
On the other hand, now, whenever I go home (which is far too rarely nowadays, as I live thousands of miles away), he likes to cook for me (which I absolutely love), but he gets nervous all the time and questioning his menu choice. It’s a pity, it’s like when you enjoy talking about good food, and like experimenting with your own cooking skill, that you all of a sudden don’t appreciate simple home cooking anymore.
In the end, most often, the best meal is only a third about the food, the other two thirds are about enjoying the company and the setting. It took me a while to realize this, but I think that this is the most important thing that my passion about food taught me in the last few years.
Hey, are you in the City? Drop me an email. I most certainly will NOT cook for you, but I’d be happy to meet you for a burrito!
girl.buzz@gmail.com
Being an artist, I have the same problem with “Pictionary”, Everyone expectes me to be great at it…It’s too much preasure. I just want to draw stick people and have some fun.
I made a massive sheeeesh kabooby for my parents (they are in their 80s) and their friends (who are in their 70s) this past June. Everyone showed up at 6:30 and, now I realize one secret, had drinks until 7:30. Then they came over to me in the kitchen and said, “How’s it going?” I’m like, in a few minutes. I was skewering and marinating and stretching out the time a bit. “Nope, fire’s not hot enough!” Then, when they were starving, I put on the keboobies. It must have been 8:30 before they put in their chompers and ate like there was no manaña. Ho ho ho! Actually, it was good, but it wasn’t as great as they said. Boozed up, I was their star.
OK, Grandma’s chicken soup, Ms. Glaze!
I have a chef/niece, and it is kind of terrifying to cook for her OR to eat her organic-vegan-raw food, which I don’t much care for..hmmm..Other people’s expectations – not easy…
Mom – You’re waaaaaay too modest.
Nico – I totally agree that the food is only a part of the meal and the rest is really enjoying the people you’re spending it with.
Buzzgirl – Can you believe that I’ve been back for a week and I still haven’t had a burrito? I did have some fish tacos in Napa that didn’t cut it. Uggh. Unfortunately I’m heading back in the next day as long as these terrorist attempts die down…little scary…
MadWilliam – ah, pictionary. I’m horrible at that game. I like the one where you can act it out or draw it.
Matthew – I often attempt to get people at my dinner parties boozed up before serving them food. It helps to level the playing field. Mmmm, chicken soup…
Paris Breakfasts – organic, vegan, raw food…hmmmm… not totally into that, but I like to appreciate from afar. The first one is enough for me.
I have to tell you the truth. If you came to my house I would be worried to cook for you too. Mind you, I have the worlds worst oven and I would love to see if you could get anything decent to work in it! LOL
Paris Breakfasts – organic, vegan, raw food…hmmmm… not totally into that, but I like to appreciate from afar. The first one is enough for me.